There is a proverb that may have some answers, it says:

A sluggard’s appetite is never filled, but the desires of the diligent are fully satisfied.

The Cambridge dictionary definition of sluggard is someone who hates work and loves sleep. That made me smile. Related Smart Vocabulary words include:

clock-watcher… (get a job you love and that feels purposeful)

liar …(to yourself that you cant do it, or to others that you will or have done it?)

parasitic… (if you cant support yourself but have the resources to do so)

shirker…(allowing others to carry a heavier load because you don’t do your allocated part)

unambitious….(so boring to be this way when you life is full of opportunities)

The definition of diligence is careful and persistent work or effort:

This proverb indicates to me that it is up to us to make out lives happen, and it is up to us to know what we desire.

So no excuses like:

+ I can’t do it – those are lies we tell ourselves

+ no procrastinating and telling ourselves ‘manyana’.

+ No blaming and

+ No ‘if onlys’:

If only it was better weather

If only my husband / wife would give me more support

If only I knew how…..(find out how!)