Seeking something Refreshing?

Yesterday we were inspired by Proverbs to consider whether generosity that leads to abundance, requires trust, and that so often we miss out on giving in this way because we are scared and stingy 

King Solomon who wrote Proverbs now adds a different dimension of generosity:

A generous person will prosper;

    whoever refreshes others will be refreshed.

What does refreshing others require?

I am open to your thoughts……

Some meanderings of my own:

– is it because when we refresh others we are filled up enough inside to look outside and notice what others need?

What does it take to be filled up inside?

That is a big question.

When I am working with couples so often they blame each other and feel disappointed when a partner lets them down and makes them feel empty inside – rejected, abandoned, unvalidated, unsafe.

Recognize those feelings?

Those desires to feel heard, validated, loved, accepted unconditionally – not only if we achieve, often goes a long way back into childhood. Our partner cannot possibly make up for a lifetime of those longings no matter how much they do or don’t meet theses needs.

What would happen if you turned those desires ‘on their head’ and instead of asking someone else to make you feel significant and loved, what if you got filled up inside by doing that for yourself. Take back your power, you were created in a unique and special way. Honour that, believe that, treat yourself as worthy no matter how other people close to you see you or treat you.

And then from that place of refreshment refresh others.